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How to get started with sex toys (on your own)

Have you ever used sex toys on your own? Sex toys are popular and growing in popularity, but they can be intimidating for many people who have no idea where to begin. Lots of people assume that sex toys are only for people with vaginas, but there are toys out there for everyone.  Adding sex …

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Defining What “Good” Sex Means to You

Is it sex that lasts a long time? Sex that gives you a mind-blowing orgasm? Sex that’s spontaneous, sex that’s kinkier, or steamier than usual? Does it include toys? Does it include dirty talk? Is there foreplay involved? Is it part of a larger, flirty game between you and your partner, or is it just …

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What to Do When You Want Sex, and Your Partner Doesn’t

Have you ever tried to initiate sex, but your partner wasn’t interested? It can be a strange feeling to deal with, especially if it’s a topic you feel you can’t talk about.  There are a lot of ideas out there about what a “normal” sex life is, and it can be a source of shame …

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What is Spectatoring? (And 5 Ways to Stop It)

Do you ever feel like you can’t get out of your head during sex? You’re not alone. Many people experience difficulty staying in the present moment during sexual encounters for a number of reasons, so much so that there’s a term for it: spectatoring.  We’re all busy, complicated people, so there’s often a lot on …

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Questions to Ask Your Partner for Better Sex

If you’re looking to have better sex with your partner, have you considered the answer may just be talking about it?  Enjoyable sex is where imagination, playfulness, and open communication meet.  Beyond the basic necessity of communication in sex for things like consent and assessing everyone’s comfort level, openly communicating more in bed can make …

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5 Ways to Feel More Comfortable Talking About Sex

Do you feel comfortable talking about sex? Being a sexual person in the United States can be a rollercoaster. On the one hand, we have magazines like Cosmo and Men’s Health with headlines about sex at the end of every grocery store aisle (raise your hand if you learned a lot of interesting terminology at …

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Solo Pleasure as Healing: Practicing Body Love Through Self Intimacy

When we think of sex and intimacy, we often think of experiences with others. But there is a wonderful world of solo pleasure out there! And this world can be a gateway for us to access not only physical pleasure but also increase our body awareness our comfort within ourselves, and help to heal our …

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4 Ways to Feel More Embodied During Sex

4 Ways to Feel More Embodied During Sex

Have you ever had an experience where you couldn’t get out of your own head? For some people when that happens, all they can focus on is their thoughts and feelings, and it’s hard to get in touch with their body at all. This can be especially distressing during sex because sex is a physical …

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Everything you do is foreplay.

Everything you do is foreplay. Spring has sprung.  Now is the time to try out new ideas, connect with playfulness, engage with your curious spirit. Look closely at what seeds you want to plant and decide what you want to harvest in the months ahead. By Jacqueline Mendez Everything you do is foreplay. Under most …

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