Pleasure

Slide into Comfort: A Sex Therapist’s Guide to Lubes

If there’s one thing that can take your pleasure from “meh” to “wowza,” it’s the magic of lubrication. Lube is the unsung hero of sexual wellness—versatile, reliable, and there for everyone, no matter your age, orientation, or preferences. Let’s dive into the slippery world of lubes, where the only thing dry will be your wit. …

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Healing Through Open Conversations: Sexual Health and Cultural Taboos in the Latine/x Community

In many Latine/x families, sexuality is a topic often shrouded in silence and shame. The cultural values of respect, modesty, and family reputation can make it difficult for individuals to explore their sexual health openly. As a sex therapist, I’ve had the privilege of working with many individuals and couples in the Latine/x community who …

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How to Build Intimacy with Yourself

What is self intimacy?  The word intimacy often conjures up thoughts of romantic or sexual partners, but intimacy is important to all types of relationships. While it absolutely does exist within healthy, supportive romantic relationships, intimacy is intentional emotional closeness between two people. We usually associate it with couples because sex, kissing, and cuddling are …

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7 Ways to Add Pleasure to Your Everyday Life

Is pleasure a part of your daily life? As humans, we’re able to feel and pursue pleasure, which sets us apart from many other types of animals. Many things make being a human special (self-awareness! Higher cognition! Thumbs! Complex language!), but one that we often overlook is our capacity for pleasure. We tend to be …

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6 Tips for Introducing Sex Toys to a Partner

Adding sex toys to partnered sex can increase pleasure, build connection, and provide fun.  You may have used toys on your own before but wonder how to introduce sex toys to a partner. It can seem intimidating to bring sex toys into the bedroom when having partnered sex, but it doesn’t have to be!  Why …

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How to get started with sex toys (on your own)

Have you ever used sex toys on your own? Sex toys are popular and growing in popularity, but they can be intimidating for many people who have no idea where to begin. Lots of people assume that sex toys are only for people with vaginas, but there are toys out there for everyone.  Adding sex …

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What to Do When You Want Sex, and Your Partner Doesn’t

Have you ever tried to initiate sex, but your partner wasn’t interested? It can be a strange feeling to deal with, especially if it’s a topic you feel you can’t talk about.  There are a lot of ideas out there about what a “normal” sex life is, and it can be a source of shame …

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What is Spectatoring? (And 5 Ways to Stop It)

Do you ever feel like you can’t get out of your head during sex? You’re not alone. Many people experience difficulty staying in the present moment during sexual encounters for a number of reasons, so much so that there’s a term for it: spectatoring.  We’re all busy, complicated people, so there’s often a lot on …

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Questions to Ask Your Partner for Better Sex

If you’re looking to have better sex with your partner, have you considered the answer may just be talking about it?  Enjoyable sex is where imagination, playfulness, and open communication meet.  Beyond the basic necessity of communication in sex for things like consent and assessing everyone’s comfort level, openly communicating more in bed can make …

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