Sexuality

6 Tips for Introducing Sex Toys to a Partner

Adding sex toys to partnered sex can increase pleasure, build connection, and provide fun.  You may have used toys on your own before but wonder how to introduce sex toys to a partner. It can seem intimidating to bring sex toys into the bedroom when having partnered sex, but it doesn’t have to be!  Why …

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How to get started with sex toys (on your own)

Have you ever used sex toys on your own? Sex toys are popular and growing in popularity, but they can be intimidating for many people who have no idea where to begin. Lots of people assume that sex toys are only for people with vaginas, but there are toys out there for everyone.  Adding sex …

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Defining What “Good” Sex Means to You

Is it sex that lasts a long time? Sex that gives you a mind-blowing orgasm? Sex that’s spontaneous, sex that’s kinkier, or steamier than usual? Does it include toys? Does it include dirty talk? Is there foreplay involved? Is it part of a larger, flirty game between you and your partner, or is it just …

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8 Signs It’s Time to See a Couples Therapist

Did you know that couples spend, on average, 6 years being unhappy before seeking help from a couples therapist?  Six years is a long time to be unhappy. Life is too short to spend so much time unhappy, especially in romantic relationships. Being disappointed in your relationship can lead to feelings of depression or anxiety, …

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What to Do When You Want Sex, and Your Partner Doesn’t

Have you ever tried to initiate sex, but your partner wasn’t interested? It can be a strange feeling to deal with, especially if it’s a topic you feel you can’t talk about.  There are a lot of ideas out there about what a “normal” sex life is, and it can be a source of shame …

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What is Spectatoring? (And 5 Ways to Stop It)

Do you ever feel like you can’t get out of your head during sex? You’re not alone. Many people experience difficulty staying in the present moment during sexual encounters for a number of reasons, so much so that there’s a term for it: spectatoring.  We’re all busy, complicated people, so there’s often a lot on …

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Questions to Ask Your Partner for Better Sex

If you’re looking to have better sex with your partner, have you considered the answer may just be talking about it?  Enjoyable sex is where imagination, playfulness, and open communication meet.  Beyond the basic necessity of communication in sex for things like consent and assessing everyone’s comfort level, openly communicating more in bed can make …

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4 Important Lessons for Everyone From the Kink Community

How much do you know about kink? Kink isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay. Even if you’re not interested in dipping your toe into the world of kink, kinksters have some important lessons about sex that can benefit everyone, whether kinky or not. Kink is becoming more and more mainstream in everything from books to …

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Solo Pleasure as Healing: Practicing Body Love Through Self Intimacy

When we think of sex and intimacy, we often think of experiences with others. But there is a wonderful world of solo pleasure out there! And this world can be a gateway for us to access not only physical pleasure but also increase our body awareness our comfort within ourselves, and help to heal our …

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