Recent nationally representative surveys state that 32 percent of American adults said their ideal relationship style is consensual non-monogamy. Yet there are lots of misunderstandings and myths about what ethical non-monogamy is. Though Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) and Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) lifestyles are gaining mainstream awareness, most people remain uninformed, including therapists and other helping professionals.

There is no one-size-fits-all ENM relationship. There are many subtypes, such as polyamory, open relationships, swinging, solo poly, and being “monogamish.”  ENM/CNM relationships also experience changes in dynamics and need support. 

For those who live an *alternative* lifestyle, there are a lot of big-picture questions that are dealt with daily. Many report that they often accommodate society by trying to “fit in.” When seeking support, they often find themselves sacrificing parts of themselves or have to continually educate others about their lifestyle, which may lead to feelings of shame and anxiety.

Many of our clients are part of the BDSM and ethical non-monogamy lifestyle community.  They have shared with us the need for a space to meet and support others who share the same lifestyle in an open, non-judgmental space with like-minded individuals.