Sex Therapy for Women
& Women's Sexuality
Sex therapy for women can be intimidating. One thing that almost all women seeking sex therapy have in common is thinking that they are the only one suffering from their particular issue.
Feeling as if you are the only person struggling or being challenged with sex adds to your sense of embarrassment, hopelessness or avoidant, making it even harder to reach out for help.
Many of the women we serve frequently begin asking for help from their medical doctors. The problem with this is that most medical doctors have little to no experience with sexual issues—medical schools only provide minimal experience and mainly in the area sexual reproduction—not sexual or pleasure physiology. This, more often then not, leads to even more feelings of hopelessness and giving up. CRIWB has expert therapist who are trained for sex therapy for women.
The truth is that a woman’s body is quite wise. Although it may seem that it is working against you, it is actually keeping you safe and informing you that your sexual needs and requirements are not being met.
With sex therapy for women at CRIWB, we help women explore and better understand their own unique sexual self, sexual expression and sexual needs in order to create a healthy relationship with body, heart, mind and desire. CRIWB is a warm, spiritual place that embraces all orientations, expressions, and lifestyles. With a multicultural group of clinicians trained in sex therapy for women, CRIWB is a place of openness, cultural sensitivity, inclusiveness, and spirituality.
Sex therapy for women can provide a form of talk therapy that creates a safe space to find clear and workable solutions.
Women’s sexuality is constantly evolving.
It is old paradigms modern-day feminine roles that have yet to evolve.
The truth is that for women it is completely normal and natural to experience changes in your sexuality (even daily!) depending upon your mood, health, hormones, lifestyle, and context of your life.
Women experience sex very differently because her body is constantly changing. What may feel good one day, may feel quite different the next.
Inability to Orgasm
Most women tend to think that they are the only woman in the world who has never experienced an orgasm. This could not be further from the truth.
A woman’s ability to experience orgasm and her actual orgasm is as unique as her fingerprint. Some women have never had an orgasm. Others can orgasm just fine on their own, but have a hard time getting there with a partner.
And for women in a relationship, the inability to reach orgasm is a frustrating experience for a woman and her partner. Misinformation and even too much information, by both her and her partner, often leads to more frustration and unneeded pressure. We work on this issue with both the woman and her partner so that both are educated and supported during the treatment.
Low Sex Drive | Low Libido
One of the most common problems brought up in sex therapy for women is lack of desire. Sexual desire is quite complex, and the causes of low desire can be numerous. Most women these days live incredibly stressful lives—juggling jobs, relationships, parenting and numerous other commitments. Many find it hard to find the time or energy for sex. Sometimes it can feel like your sex life has so many things working against it. They experience themselves as tense and over committed. Desire requires space, time and relaxation.
There are also other causes of low desire, including medical conditions, medications, relationship issues, and depression, including postpartum and grief.
Sex therapy for low sex drive looks at all the layers that affect this presenting issue to better understand and respond to the hopes and expectations of each partner and help her to better communicate her wants and needs her partner.
No greater space in women’s sexual health has the most myths and misunderstandings than sex and aging. Modern culture continues to incorrectly tell women that when the years of fertility to pause, so does her sexual life. Nothing can be further from the truth!
Women often with sex and aging because of the changes in their body.
As women approach menopause, their estrogen levels decrease, which may lead to vaginal dryness and slower sexual arousal. Emotional changes can increase feelings of stress, which also can change your interest in sex.
While some women may enjoy sex more without worrying about pregnancy, naturally occurring changes in body shape and size/body image may cause others to feel less sexually desirable.
Trauma | Abuse
Sexual abuse is extremely common with some studies estimating that one in three women has been directly experienced sexual trauma or abuse. With modern movement such as “Me Too,” we also know that the impact of sexual abuse and trauma is much wider—most women have been exposed to some type of sexual harassment at some point in her life—cat calling, unwanted proposals, witnessing sexual abuse, and slut shaming to name a few. Sexual abuse and sexual harassment can create lasting anxiety and fear about sex, the inability to enjoy intimacy, and sexual pain.
Exposure to war, unsafe homes, domestic violence, and dating violence can also lead to sexual trauma. Sex Therapy after trauma or abuse is an integral part of healing for a woman’s recovery and creating more desire and connection with her partner.
Painful Sex | Pelvic Pain
Some women experience muscle spasms, dryness, or deep internal pain—often resulting in the inability to enjoy intimacy or sex. Genito Pelvic Pain/Penetration Disorder including: Vulvodynia, Vaginismus, and /or Sexual Aversion.
At CRIWB, we do a thorough bio-psychosocial assessment and work with other healthcare providers to help women get a proper diagnosis and treatment for sexual pain. We help women and their partners understand the physical, emotional and mental impact of sexual pain and how to create the relationship dynamics that will support healing.
Revitalizing Connection with Partner
Often women seek help when they notice that the sexual chemistry has faded in their relationship—sex feels routine, mechanical, and disconnected. Frequency and playfulness gone. Some women worry about boring their partners in the bedroom. Others begin to recognize that sex was never very good in the relationship or that the relationship has never included her sexual needs.
Sex therapy for women can help those wanting to increase her and their partner’s sexual skills, clarify sexual needs and heal relationship dynamics that impact connection, intimacy and sexual satisfaction.
Women of all ages are consistently bombarded with bodily “standards” and expectations—flat and toned stomachs, thigh “gap,” ever perky, firm, large breasts, unaged, unblemished skin. This leaves many women feeling uncomfortable and tense in her own skin.
When distracted by the way the body is supposed to look and move, sex can be less desired.
Women are helped to develop healthier relationships with their bodies and learn to experience greater bodily pleasure. The more comfortable a woman is in her body, enjoys and takes pleasure from her body, moves freely in her body, the more enriched are her life and of those around her.
Other Commonly Helped Issues During Sex Therapy for Women
- Low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness
- Superwoman complex and perfectionism… having to do it all and not asking for help
- Balancing traditional feminine roles with modern ambitions and work-home demands
- Aging and sexuality
- Peri-menopause and menopause impact on libido and desire
- Relationship recovering from an affair or betrayal