How to get started with sex toys (on your own)

Have you ever used sex toys on your own? Sex toys are popular and growing in popularity, but they can be intimidating for many people who have no idea where to begin. Lots of people assume that sex toys are only for people with vaginas, but there are toys out there for everyone.  Adding sex …

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Defining What “Good” Sex Means to You

Is it sex that lasts a long time? Sex that gives you a mind-blowing orgasm? Sex that’s spontaneous, sex that’s kinkier, or steamier than usual? Does it include toys? Does it include dirty talk? Is there foreplay involved? Is it part of a larger, flirty game between you and your partner, or is it just …

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5 Tips for Starting a Regular Relationship Check In

All relationships require communication to survive. When communication is respected and open in a relationship, especially a romantic one, it builds safety and trust. Learning how to communicate with your partner can give you an even stronger foundation for your relationship moving forward. Knowing that you can trust each other to be open and honest …

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Ethical Non-Monogamy: Learning the Basics

What is Ethical Non-Monogamy? Have you heard of ethical non-monogamy? Most people don’t spend a lot of time thinking about what relationship structure is best suited to them, their desires, and their needs. As a culture, we’re taught subconsciously that monogamy (the practice of being in a relationship with another person at a time) is …

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8 Signs It’s Time to See a Couples Therapist

Did you know that couples spend, on average, 6 years being unhappy before seeking help from a couples therapist?  Six years is a long time to be unhappy. Life is too short to spend so much time unhappy, especially in romantic relationships. Being disappointed in your relationship can lead to feelings of depression or anxiety, …

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What to Do When You Want Sex, and Your Partner Doesn’t

Have you ever tried to initiate sex, but your partner wasn’t interested? It can be a strange feeling to deal with, especially if it’s a topic you feel you can’t talk about.  There are a lot of ideas out there about what a “normal” sex life is, and it can be a source of shame …

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What is Spectatoring? (And 5 Ways to Stop It)

Do you ever feel like you can’t get out of your head during sex? You’re not alone. Many people experience difficulty staying in the present moment during sexual encounters for a number of reasons, so much so that there’s a term for it: spectatoring.  We’re all busy, complicated people, so there’s often a lot on …

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Questions to Ask Your Partner for Better Sex

If you’re looking to have better sex with your partner, have you considered the answer may just be talking about it?  Enjoyable sex is where imagination, playfulness, and open communication meet.  Beyond the basic necessity of communication in sex for things like consent and assessing everyone’s comfort level, openly communicating more in bed can make …

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5 Ways to Feel More Comfortable Talking About Sex

Do you feel comfortable talking about sex? Being a sexual person in the United States can be a rollercoaster. On the one hand, we have magazines like Cosmo and Men’s Health with headlines about sex at the end of every grocery store aisle (raise your hand if you learned a lot of interesting terminology at …

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4 Important Lessons for Everyone From the Kink Community

How much do you know about kink? Kink isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay. Even if you’re not interested in dipping your toe into the world of kink, kinksters have some important lessons about sex that can benefit everyone, whether kinky or not. Kink is becoming more and more mainstream in everything from books to …

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