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How Relationship Dynamics Influence Sexual Satisfaction

Sexual satisfaction is often seen as an isolated experience tied to physical pleasure or performance. Myths about male sexuality often compound this misunderstanding—such as the belief that men are always ready for sex, prioritize physical satisfaction over emotional connection, or should take the lead in all intimate encounters. These stereotypes can create undue pressure and …

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Slide into Comfort: A Sex Therapist’s Guide to Lubes

If there’s one thing that can take your pleasure from “meh” to “wowza,” it’s the magic of lubrication. Lube is the unsung hero of sexual wellness—versatile, reliable, and there for everyone, no matter your age, orientation, or preferences. Let’s dive into the slippery world of lubes, where the only thing dry will be your wit. …

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The Benefits of Planned Sex

Has sex with your partner become less spontaneous?  Sometimes there’s this idea that when spontaneous sex stops, so do romance, passion, and eroticism. But that doesn’t have to be the case! While a lack of spontaneous sex can lead to a dip in that passion if left alone, spontaneity isn’t the only way to grow …

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6 Tips for Introducing Sex Toys to a Partner

Adding sex toys to partnered sex can increase pleasure, build connection, and provide fun.  You may have used toys on your own before but wonder how to introduce sex toys to a partner. It can seem intimidating to bring sex toys into the bedroom when having partnered sex, but it doesn’t have to be!  Why …

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How to get started with sex toys (on your own)

Have you ever used sex toys on your own? Sex toys are popular and growing in popularity, but they can be intimidating for many people who have no idea where to begin. Lots of people assume that sex toys are only for people with vaginas, but there are toys out there for everyone.  Adding sex …

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Defining What “Good” Sex Means to You

Is it sex that lasts a long time? Sex that gives you a mind-blowing orgasm? Sex that’s spontaneous, sex that’s kinkier, or steamier than usual? Does it include toys? Does it include dirty talk? Is there foreplay involved? Is it part of a larger, flirty game between you and your partner, or is it just …

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What to Do When You Want Sex, and Your Partner Doesn’t

Have you ever tried to initiate sex, but your partner wasn’t interested? It can be a strange feeling to deal with, especially if it’s a topic you feel you can’t talk about.  There are a lot of ideas out there about what a “normal” sex life is, and it can be a source of shame …

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What is Spectatoring? (And 5 Ways to Stop It)

Do you ever feel like you can’t get out of your head during sex? You’re not alone. Many people experience difficulty staying in the present moment during sexual encounters for a number of reasons, so much so that there’s a term for it: spectatoring.  We’re all busy, complicated people, so there’s often a lot on …

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Questions to Ask Your Partner for Better Sex

If you’re looking to have better sex with your partner, have you considered the answer may just be talking about it?  Enjoyable sex is where imagination, playfulness, and open communication meet.  Beyond the basic necessity of communication in sex for things like consent and assessing everyone’s comfort level, openly communicating more in bed can make …

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